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AngelOf86
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AUG 16, 02:16 AM
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Just skip this. I bought my Fiero "Sirius" last month and I absolutely love him. I got a fiero because I feel I have a lot in common with them. Just for reference I'm a young adult with autism/ADD. No one's ever really had hope in me and everyone who's been my "friend" just turned me into a personal project to "fix" me. I come from a home where mental health issues are considered a "prayer" issue. Ive grown up believing ill never get to be anything because of my disability and been yelled at for being "selfish" and had my throat grabbed for asking to go out side because a refrigerator humming was giving me a meltdown. I have lots of issues with depression and may have developed PTSD from a shooting in July of 2018 (I'm not diagnosed but definitely have symptoms. I won't say I have it unless I get it diagnosed) I also have a history with suicidal thoughts/Attempts and self harm (the reason I chose the name "AngelOf86") I'm getting better but I feel worthless now. I feel attached to my fiero because we're both considered "worthless", broken, unreliable, and have history's of self inflicted destruction caused by others actions (1984 fiero ref) I'm giving this car the second chance ill never get. I like to believe its also helping me. I'm not asking for sympathy or trying to do anything dumb I just thought I'd tell my story on how I ended up here. I appreciate you reading and I'd like to here your story too. Idk if I'm allowed to post this kinda stuff if not it's okay if it gets deleted. No one knows my story and I'm scared to tell anyone so I'll tell you strangers.
EDIT: Hear not Here
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AngelOf86[This message has been edited by AngelOf86 (edited 08-16-2024).]
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Patrick
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AUG 16, 03:13 AM
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| quote | Originally posted by AngelOf86:
Idk if I'm allowed to post this kinda stuff if not it's okay if it gets deleted. No one knows my story and I'm scared to tell anyone so I'll tell you strangers.
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No, you've posted in exactly the right section of the forum. Venting here is a great idea... as long as you stay totally anonymous. Keeping in mind that most of the members here are male gearheads, I'm not sure of the type of responses you'll get. I'm not suggesting anyone is going to be obnoxious, but there are going to be very few members here who are qualified to deal with some of the issues you've brought up. I know that I'd certainly be out of my league. However, there is quite a cross-section of people here, so it's possible that someone will be able to offer some guidance, if you're looking for some. But we all can lend an ear.
One small thing I can suggest, in regards to using the forum... is that when you make a typo and want to correct it... instead of mentioning something at the end of the post, simply go and fix the word (like I just now had to do myself).  [This message has been edited by Patrick (edited 08-16-2024).]
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AngelOf86
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AUG 16, 03:34 AM
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| quote | Originally posted by Patrick:
No, you've posted in exactly the right section of the forum. Venting here is a great idea... as long as you stay totally anonymous. Keeping in mind that most of the members here are male gearheads, I'm not sure of the type of responses you'll get. I'm not suggesting anyone is going to be obnoxious, but there are going to be very few members here who are qualified to deal with some of the issues you've brought up. I know that I'd certainly be out of my league. However, there is quite a cross-section of people here, so it's possible that someone will be able to offer some guidance, if you're looking for some. But we all can lend an ear.
One small thing I can suggest, in regards to using the forum... is that when you make a typo and want to correct it... instead of mentioning something at the end of the post, just go and fix the word (like I just now had to do).
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I don't really expect much. Just figuring out mine and my cars problems lol
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fierofool
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AUG 16, 09:08 AM
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This certainly is the right place to fix your car's problems. Maybe you can relate to those fixes for your personal well-being. We certainly hope so.
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BingB
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AUG 16, 10:33 AM
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The duel diagnosis of ADD and Autism is very complicated. Experts agree there is a huge overlap. There are estimates that over 50% of autistic people have ADHD. But despite the huge overlap they are still separate and distinct neurological issues. Were you fully tested for both conditions separately before being diagnosed?
None of us can offer a lot of advice from just hearing your version of the story. But I am sure everyone here will be supportive of your Fiero project and help you achieve that goal.
The fact that you claim you will never get a 2nd chance is a huge red flag. Work hard on the car. That type of activity can have a very positive effect, but please, do not stop working on yourself. Don't self-diagnose and treat yourself. Still work with professionals. And find someone who emphasis providing support for your needs instead of just modifying your behavior to appear more neurotypical.
And I will just not mention all the mental breakdowns that can be caused by owning a Fiero.[This message has been edited by BingB (edited 08-16-2024).]
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CoolBlue87GT
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AUG 16, 10:44 AM
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Welcome AngelOf86
Avondale - I see it used to be called Coldwater back in the 1880's until 1946 when Avondale was incorporated.
Looking forward to hearing more about your Fiero. We're all here with different Fiero's in various conditions. I know I've learned a lot from fellow members over the years.
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williegoat
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AUG 16, 11:18 AM
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| quote | Originally posted by CoolBlue87GT:
Avondale - I see it used to be called Coldwater back in the 1880's until 1946 when Avondale was incorporated.
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Avondale is home to what all of us old timers still call PIR.
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TheDigitalAlchemist
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AUG 16, 11:36 AM
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Welcome! Just remember that worse-case scenario, if your Fiero ever "dies",(frame rots away, fire ants consume it, etc.) , its not the end of the world - you can always get another one. (one with less fire ants, prefewrribly)
ps - its ok to leave spelling mistakes,(see above) but some people (or frogs) might look at you funny. Or sternly, such as willigoat is doing... 
williegoat:"grrrrr..."
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Little known fact: certain parts of your Fiero are edible!
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williegoat
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AUG 16, 11:49 AM
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| quote | Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist:
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Little known fact: certain parts of your Fiero are edible!
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Dance like nobody's watching.
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AngelOf86
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AUG 16, 02:50 PM
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| quote | Originally posted by BingB:
The duel diagnosis of ADD and Autism is very complicated. Experts agree there is a huge overlap. There are estimates that over 50% of autistic people have ADHD. But despite the huge overlap they are still separate and distinct neurological issues. Were you fully tested for both conditions separately before being diagnosed?
None of us can offer a lot of advice from just hearing your version of the story. But I am sure everyone here will be supportive of your Fiero project and help you achieve that goal.
The fact that you claim you will never get a 2nd chance is a huge red flag. Work hard on the car. That type of activity can have a very positive effect, but please, do not stop working on yourself. Don't self-diagnose and treat yourself. Still work with professionals. And find someone who emphasis providing support for your needs instead of just modifying your behavior to appear more neurotypical.
And I will just not mention all the mental breakdowns that can be caused by owning a Fiero.
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Ya I'm fully diagnosed I got both diagnoses when I was 7. I'm fully prepared for those breakdowns lol. I'm not trying to be neurotypical I'm trying to be as normal as I can get but I struggle with what "normal" is you can't necessarily get help for autism it's actually a hereditary thing with your Chromosomes. No medications or therapy can fix it. I don't try to be disabled I just I'm considered it lol I make it more of a joke then anything. People don't expect me to be autistic because I have what's formerly know as aspergers syndrome or "high functioning" autism and cherry on top im a girl most people still believe only guys can be autistic. So I don't "look" like it but it mainly effects my processing and sensory aspects. Like I'm not as bothered with as many things as people further on the spectrum I'm "normal" enough to function in society but not "normal" enough for everyone else. I've learned to stop caring it still bothers me that a word on a piece of paper will effect my relationships, jobs, school opportunities and my future but I'm not letting a label define me.[This message has been edited by AngelOf86 (edited 08-16-2024).]
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