It depends upon what you're trying to do.
To remove tips, I'll take and rotate the tip downward ~90 degrees and then back up. If you do that enough times, it'll work loose. Or at least looser than it was.
I don't have a problem with heating the connection, either. I don't believe it weakens the metal. If you cool it quickly, it will actually temper the metal.
If you're replacing a muffler but want to retain the original tips, you can use a cutoff wheel to slot the end of the muffler pipe. It will make it easy to spread the pipe away from the elbow on the tip.
There really is no "neat and tidy" way to do it.
My recommendation would be that, whenever you assemble a system, slot the outer pipes, and then use stainless band clamps instead of crush type U-clamps.
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Raydar
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