Never though I would start one of these threads...Caught my live in girlfriend of 2 years cheating on me. She did it for the last 4 months. And to think I have all of this "Private Material" and "Sensitive Data"
What to do with it....
PS. Im scarred for life now, women can be evil.
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Dude, I've had that happen to me, G/F of 2 years had been cheating on me for 3 months. Your best bet, kick her out, and stop talking to her. Hang out with friends and get your mind off things. I know its hard but keeping pre-occupied will help!
Dude, I've had that happen to me, G/F of 2 years had been cheating on me for 3 months. Your best bet, kick her out, and stop talking to her. Hang out with friends and get your mind off things. I know its hard but keeping pre-occupied will help!
Shes GONE DUDE. But all this nsfw stuff I have what to do with it
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Never though I would start one of these threads...Caught my live in girlfriend of 2 years cheating on me. She did it for the last 4 months. And to think I have all of this "Private Material" and "Sensitive Data"
What to do with it....
PS. Im scarred for life now, women can be evil.
Secure your private material... and go get tested for STDs. If she's been cheating on you, who knows if there are more immediate issues she may have passed on. I advise resisting the temptation of posting the private materials on the net.
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Posts: 4980 From: Staunton, VA Registered: May 2001
As tempting as it would be to keep it and use it against her - Don't! That would lower you to the same sleezeball category she is in. That would make it difficult for you to move on and find someone better. Just burn it. If you keep it you run the risk of your new girlfriend finding it! (when you meet a nice girl!)
As tempting as it would be to keep it and use it against her - Don't! That would lower you to the same sleezeball category she is in. That would make it difficult for you to move on and find someone better. Just burn it. If you keep it you run the risk of your new girlfriend finding it! (when you meet a nice girl!)
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Daa-aamn. That sucks in a way that is hard to comprehend. Really sorry for your situation dude, it can be really painful. No one can make it better of course, but maybe I can share a couple of things with you that might make it a tad easier. First off recognize what you're feeling. Don't let your bruised ego get the better of you. The truth is, if she cheated on you, it's NOT because of ANYTHING you did. Let me repeat that: It's not about you! She cheated because SHE has a problem. She probably has crappy self esteem. She probably thought that by shaggin' with some other dude that she would feel better about whatever is bothering her. Life will suck for her when she figures it out. So as hard as it is, try not to take it as a personal attack that she did this. There's NOTHING you could have done to prevent it. You could have been perfect in every way, and it wouldn't have made any difference. She's obviously scared, and certainly selfish and self centered, otherwise she would have considered your feelings before doing something so low. There are few things that feel as insulting as having someone we love step out on us. We feel like it's our fault or that we must have done something to drive them away. And certainly when a person cheats they feed into that by often BLAMING the person they cheated on; "Oh, you're never around for me", 'You aren't supportive", "You drink with your friends", blah blah blah. Just once, wouldn't you love to hear a cheater just say:"Yeah, I'm a selfish dumbass, and I don't think of anything but my own gratification and I'm willing to crush your nuts in a vice to get it"....uh huh. Yeah, that'll happen. Anyway, don't do anything you'll regret, with these sensitive items you have. Don't stoop to her level. While it might make you feel better to effect some revenge, it won't make things better. Just put her ass out and get her out of your system and move on. (If you really MUST send them out, you can shoot them my way ) All kidding aside though, don't let this jade you. Not all women are like that. It just takes time to find the right one. Just learn the lesson, see if there are things about her you might have overlooked or not wanted to see, and be aware of them in the future. Sorry this happened to you dude, no one deserves this kind of treatment.
Johnny, don't you know females have 4 types of orgasms...
The Postive Orgasm: (screaming) "YES! YES! YES!" The Negative Orgasm: (screaming) "NO! NO! NO!" The Religious Orgasm: (screaming) "OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!" and the infamous....
Johnny, don't you know females have 4 types of orgasms...
The Postive Orgasm: (screaming) "YES! YES! YES!" The Negative Orgasm: (screaming) "NO! NO! NO!" The Religious Orgasm: (screaming) "OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!" and the infamous....
Thanks for all your replies but Im done crying. Got drunk and cried with my sister (more like on her) now everything is cool. Im not mad, I even called the other guy. He was crying when I hung up. Been tested...this all went down last week.
She would get off work and come home to change. Then go out with her "friends" come home and sleep with me and then do it again the next day.
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wbailey, trust me, like I said, I've had almost the same thing happen, its going to hurt, you are going to want to talk to her, resist as much as you can. I thought the same way, that they are all worthless. Trust me, after a while I started dating again, there are plenty of good ones out there. Plus this will teach you more to what you actually want in a relationship. You will only be stronger and better off after this.
You are going to go through the emotional ringer. Steel yourself. We are here for you. You may want to use mind numbing substances. Moderation is your friend. So is abstinance. Get busy. Occupy your time/mind. Start a new interest. Take a trip. C'mon down to Texas, if you get the chance. I'll show you Medina Lake. Be prepared to stay Commit yourself to a group effort. It helps being accountable to sometimes get yourself out and away from your thoughts. You can get mired down by them. It may be hard, but count yourself lucky that you found out and got rid of the cun* . Hold your head high. Keep your values. I met my wife when both of our others cheated on us. They did my wife and I a favor. The are losers and my wife and I can't be happier.
Well since everyone is so supportive Ill give you the whole story.
It all started about 2 weeks ago, we had plans to go get a marriage lic from the court house, thats right we were gonna get married. I've been praying for a long time as to wether or not it was the right thing to do. God replied when she blew me off the entire day when we were going to go. She didnt anser her cell phone the whole day,this is very very very rare. But I trusted her so no big deal. Then On friday we go see a movie and she gets a text message from this guy mike saying he loves her and doesnt want to break up. I yanked up the ebrake and got out of the car. Called my sister to come get me. She tells me it was just a friend, yeah ok. So I came home and called the guy, and got all the details, dating, screwing, planning, the whole nine yards. I just found out he is going to stay with her after all this. GOOD LUCK TO HIM.
I'm over it allready, I had this happen once before so I know how cope. I have the worst luck with women. I gave this girl everything, even 2 cars. But its cool cause Im still young and good looking.
See
Its a good, I guess nice guys do finish last.
Thanks for everything guys and keep it coming.
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Johnny, don't you know females have 4 types of orgasms...
The Postive Orgasm: (screaming) "YES! YES! YES!" The Negative Orgasm: (screaming) "NO! NO! NO!" The Religious Orgasm: (screaming) "OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!" and the infamous....
i was engaged to a girl and i had been with her for 5 years , the last 4 months she had been getting nailed by my best friend . long story short....... i kicked her out and the started dating. then they got married ,and boy he got what he deserved. so did she lol. she keeps a nasty house and refuses to work and all they do is fight but, because the both go to church and swear they are christians , they refuse to get a divirce or get help cuz they both blame each other for their problems :0 makes me happy ,i have a sweet wife even though we argue at times and all is good . so keep your head up its painfully obvious to you now that she was not worth it .and its sad to say there are a lot of women out there that are like this .
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i was engaged to a girl and i had been with her for 5 years , the last 4 months she had been getting nailed by my best friend . long story short....... i kicked her out and the started dating. then they got married ,and boy he got what he deserved. so did she lol. she keeps a nasty house and refuses to work and all they do is fight but, because the both go to church and swear they are christians , they refuse to get a divirce or get help cuz they both blame each other for their problems :0 makes me happy ,i have a sweet wife even though we argue at times and all is good . so keep your head up its painfully obvious to you now that she was not worth it .and its sad to say there are a lot of women out there that are like this .
I know I'm 22 and just about scared to start dating again.
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cheaters never prosper. You are so much better off. I have been cheated on so many times and each time i tell myself, this will be different. Thankfully life has been good to me the past couple of years so im keeping my fingers crossed that this is the one. She aint worth the pain and tears. It hurts and rightfully will hurt for a while but know that someone else can treat you so much better.
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Do NOT post any questionable material of her on the net!! People have gone to jail for that. It can be proven that you did it specifically to cause her pain and anguish, and juries will take her side.
Now, sending them privately in email....
Seriously, though. Put that crap away and don't even think about posting it.
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Do NOT post any questionable material of her on the net!! People have gone to jail for that. It can be proven that you did it specifically to cause her pain and anguish, and juries will take her side.
Now, sending them privately in email....
Seriously, though. Put that crap away and don't even think about posting it.
Now what makes you think I would do something like that?
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Well obviously it sucks when your hurt by someone you love. Strange how its cheating when your dating though. If dating requires you to only be with one person, then what is the current terminology for going on dates and seeing different people to find out who you want to be, like, love etc....
Don't post the pics, don't email them from your subscriber email etc.... But do keep them, maybe in a safety deposit box, or something similiar incase she ever tries to do something to do, or in the rare case she becomes a superstar and your pics become extremely valuable.
You did say your still young and decent looking, so you will find someone else. 22 is way to young to get married. Think about it mathmatically, you going to commit the next 50+ years of your life to someone you have known for how many?
Now this will probably offend someone somewhere but, if you bought a new car TODAY, would you expect it to last the next 50+ years? Could you buy it and say you would never want another for 50+ years? When you answer that remember that most new cars last much much longer then new relationships.
The whole pointing of dating is meet many people, and to find the one that is right for you.
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Strange how its cheating when your dating though. If dating requires you to only be with one person, then what is the current terminology for going on dates and seeing different people to find out who you want to be, like, love etc....
Dude we were living together, going to bed everynight in the same bed. We made a verbal agreement not to see other people, I think they called that going steady at one time. Then she slept with someone else OVER THE COURSE OF 4 MONTHS WHILE STILL SLEEPING WITH ME. Thats why its called cheating.
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Posts: 13606 From: kansas city, mo Registered: Jul 2002
the woman that i am with (who is going to have my baby) left me back in october after living together for about 7 years.
we got back together after about 2 months.
anyway it really tore me up. she had be planning the move for at least a month so i really felt betrayed. but i'm sure it wasn't anything like you had to go through.
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Yeah you can sure say that again! At least you found out the truth about her before you got married . I wish i could be in your shoes instead of mine. My wife whored around and got pregnant ,and in order to see "my" daughter and stay out of financial ruin, i'm stuck in this hell thats called my life. I tried moving out and she would keep the kids hostage from me and it killed me to not see my kid. Women are evil and the ones that are nice are already taken . It's so F**ked up. I did everything for her i gave her everything she wanted . I put a roof over her head and took care of her son as if he were my own, and she did the dirty with some piece of sh*t that wants nothing to do with what he created. Nice guys do finish last ! Sorry for the hijack no back to your regularly scheduled cheating woman thread
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Coincidentally, I found this website just today. You may find it interesting. Stories about how and why people broke up with their significant other. There's bound to be a story thats worse/stranger/funnier(?) than your own. Or you can submit your own story.
Sorry to hear about that duder. Well, if she doesn't know you know are wise about her cheating, you might as well have some fun with the wench. Accidently drop her toothbrushin in the toilet - amsuing stuff like that - and then when the novelty wears off kick her useless ass to the curb. Have some fun messing with her little cat brain. If she is like 99.99% of the other women, sooner or later she realize that she f'd up and will try and drag her sad arse back to you. Just say no.
It's a small consolation, but at least you saw her true side before you put a ring on her finger and risked losing half your stuff to the two timer. I have more or less come to the conclusion that today's younger women are basically like prostitutes - it's not about personality for them, but about who has the most bling and will let them live the easy life like their Hilton rolemodels. Your right - women are cruel - probably the cruelest of god's creations. The days of good women are long gone my friend - what we have left is a generation of Barbie girls raised on Britney Spears and Hollywood so far removed from the real world that they could turn even the nicest guy into a mysogynist. My advice? Use them for what their good for like they use us, having as much fun as you can while your still young.
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Sorry to hear about that duder. Well, if she doesn't know you know are wise about her cheating, you might as well have some fun with the wench. Accidently drop her toothbrushin in the toilet - amsuing stuff like that - and then when the novelty wears off kick her useless ass to the curb. Have some fun messing with her little cat brain. If she is like 99.99% of the other women, sooner or later she realize that she f'd up and will try and drag her sad arse back to you. Just say no.
It's a small consolation, but at least you saw her true side before you put a ring on her finger and risked losing half your stuff to the two timer. I have more or less come to the conclusion that today's younger women are basically like prostitutes - it's not about personality for them, but about who has the most bling and will let them live the easy life like their Hilton rolemodels. Your right - women are cruel - probably the cruelest of god's creations. The days of good women are long gone my friend - what we have left is a generation of Barbie girls raised on Britney Spears and Hollywood so far removed from the real world that they could turn even the nicest guy into a mysogynist. My advice? Use them for what their good for like they use us, having as much fun as you can while your still young.
WOW that made me feel better!!!! I like the way your thinking.
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Posts: 4980 From: Staunton, VA Registered: May 2001
There are nice girls out there, trust me! Whatever you do, don't go off the deep end and whore around yourself or you could end up with STD's or a reputation that will prevent you from getting a nice girl in the future. I've had plenty of guy friends that have done that and now they regret it.
All that said, I'm really sorry you were screwed over. You seem like a nice guy and deserve better. Give yourself some time off, work on your Fiero and don't go looking - that's when the best ones are found! :-) I met my husband when I was 22 (I'm now 24 - almost 25) after 4 months of bad dates which came along after I was dating a guy who cheated on me with two different girls. Trusting someone was very difficult and I think I met every bar bozo out there until I met Matt. I met him on a night when I was the DD and not in the mood to have any fun. Needless to say he got my number, called the next day and we've been together ever since. It wasn't the smoothest road at first, since I had some trust issues and he had some pyschotic weirdos in his past but things are so awesome now I wouldn't trade it for the world - and he likes Fieros!
If it was me, I would take her back, treat her wrong in so many ways and let my friends do the same, Then after I used and abused her(not talkinga bout beating her) I would kick her azz to the curb and place all sensitive items on every Forum I could find. But thats just me and I dont have to many feelings for ppl.
If it was me, I would take her back, treat her wrong in so many ways and let my friends do the same, Then after I used and abused her(not talkinga bout beating her) I would kick her azz to the curb and place all sensitive items on every Forum I could find. But thats just me and I dont have to many feelings for ppl.
Thats what I wanted to do, but I know better
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Posts: 4540 From: Alexandria, VA Registered: Apr 2005
People are giving you all kinds of bad advice. First...she's a whore. A guy can be a whore too. There is no double standard.
Second...now is the time to whore around. How can you know what kind of car to buy without testdriving. Think of her sister as a convertible. Slip the clutch dude. (I don't even know what that means)
Third..they invented the internet for one purpose...****. Use it! Post lots and post often. Need things hosted? We can hook you up.
Next...to the horny guys wanting the pictures..some advice. It's called google. Turn the lights down low and the safe search off and let what happens happen.
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