What he said. I think its time I loose the Mr. Nice Guy thing I am and try for the ******* look. Seems to work for alot of people.

quote Originally posted by cliffw: Actually, it seems girls like A$$holes

quote Originally posted by Loki: What he said. I think its time I loose the Mr. Nice Guy thing I am and try for the ******* look. Seems to work for alot of people.

...and will that REALLY make ya happy?

*shrugs*

I suppose it depends on what your REALLY want.

No i want someone i can love and take care of and who will love me for me from start to end. A best friend and a lover.

I was in love once, I got hurt really bad. I never want to do that again.

What you need to do Lloyd, er uh, Loki is find a girl who looks exactly like her and dump her! Then we'll go to a keger!

Seriously, I hope you feel better.

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Dude, lemme tell you, I learned this lesson a long time ago: If you're so lost without a woman in your life, you NEED to be alone for a while. Sure, it's nice to have someone in your life that you can love and who'll love you and all that. But when you reach the point you're at, then your very happiness is dependent on that other person. That's a LOT of responsibility to lay on another human being. And it makes you desperate, so much so that it becomes easy to confuse love with obsession. I used to feel like you do, and I forced myself to take a year off from dating and relationships. I focused my attention on hobbies and work and concentrated on just being happy by myself. It was tough at first, but then it got easier, and I actually came to appreciate being by myself. I liked not haivng someone else to answer to, and being able to do what I wanted when I wanted, without having to "ask the wife" if it was OK. I felt empowered by the independence. Then when I did start dating again, I wasn't trying to find someone who would make and keep me happy, but for someone who would add to the happiness I already had. And I made sure to hold on the independednce I had found.
Just relax, and let it happen. Take some time off and just reflect, and try to understand what has happened in the past, and how you can avoid those same mistakes again.

quote Originally posted by Loki: No i want someone i can love and take care of and who will love me for me from start to end. A best friend and a lover.

Then don't put on an "A$$hole suit."

All you'll do is have a few years of wasted relationships, and then when you DO find that "special someone" you'll have to explain to her about "that rash" and "those little bumps" and that strange-smelling, oddly-colored discharge.

Is it REALLY worth THAT?

I'm not for sure if it is the cruelty of life, but I've been gf-less from time to time, and sometimes during those times I get a bit lonely, so I can understand how you feel. Friends you to give me advice about meeting women on college campus, the book store, youth group, online, and etc.

After awhile, and I believe you will get there, but you just get tired of trying to look or hook up with somebody. So you chill at home and play nintendo games or something to pass the time. Next thing you know somebody just pops up in your life.

The short of it:

You can't find one when you are looking

But you get one when you are not.

Also: I'm sure most can relate to this too. Have you ever wonder, how many women show up or show interest in you after you are hooked up? They come around when you are already taken.

quote Originally posted by FieroRumor: Things are great now, except when she starts to leak air...

Well you're just not spending enough time plugging her now are you.

Hey, hey, hey ! I used the winky disclaimer even though it seems to be true.
I do not play games and am not an a$$hole unless you ask me to be by being one yourself.
Really though, girls hate it/love it when you are unpredictable. Mystery Man. Don't call back on time. Change plans. Make her go with you, out with the guys. Leave her alone if she don't want to go. Be unpredictable. Do not dote on her. In fact, if she does not dote on you, she ain't worth it. You know you are special. Do you really want to be stuck with someone who can't figure it out ?
Hey, these are the 90s. ( I must have been daydreaming ) Women are playing the man's role but they do not have a clue. Play the woman's role. Like I said, I do not play games, but the days of women waiting for a courter to come by are over. Since they are playing the man's role, I let them come court me.

quote Originally posted by cliffw: I used to think like that. It took awhile, but I did find a good woman who can take me for me. I am your poster boy for hope. Hang in there Loki. It was me against life and as far as I was concerned, life could kiss my ass too. I just made myself happy with myself, by myself, and did not worry about the grass on the other side of the fence. Or the cows eating it, no matter how good they looked It gets to the point that they can not stand you being happy with yourself and they want some of it too. I stayed true to my principles and would have no time, none at all, for those who could not take me as I am. I am not a pretender anyway.

Ya know Loki, you might be being tested. As confusing as this might sound, the best way to pass the test, is to fail it.

Here, cut out this pirate mask and take what you want!

If you really want this gal, let her find one of these letters. You will know if she really wants you by her responce.

C'mon Rumor, you know all the nice girls are attracted to jerks. Act like a jerk, get a nice girl, and then slowly drop the jerk routine to make her think she's changed you.

Dont you get dumped by a girl like every year?????

Your issue is you feel the NEED to HAVE someone in your life.

Worry about YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

Youre giving this relationship BULLSH!T too much credit.

I can only imagine the stuff I would do if I was single....................having my OWN room.

Yeah its a lame dream.........Im sure the other married men know what Im talking about

Death CAN'T be this busy SERENITY NOW!!!!!!!

1st round of drinks are on me my man

Good Luck!!!

Loki.....my little Loki.

Take Taiji's advice. I'm pretty sure he hit the nail on the head.
You, my friend, need to feel like you are in love in order to be happy.
Look inside, do something for you! Be happy with yourself
(don't ask me how to do that, I haven't quite figured that one out yet and I'm 43)
Concentrate on your new job, hang out with your friends, paint your computer again.

You will be fine, and later on down the road, when you do find that right one, you will know.
She will be the one, that loves you for who you are, not what you can give her.
It will happen......don't try to make it happen, just let it happen.

*Hugs* from me!!!!

You know where to pm me if you need to talk. I'll be there to listen.

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quote Originally posted by fierogirls-mom: Loki.....my little Loki. Take Tagi's advice. I'm pretty sure he hit the nail on the head. You, my friend, need to feel like you are in love in order to be happy. Look inside, do something for you! Be happy with yourself (don't ask me how to do that, I haven't quite figured that one out yet and I'm 43) Concentrate on your new job, hang out with your friends, paint your computer again. You will be fine, and later on down the road, when you do find that right one, you will know. She will be the one, that loves you for who you are, not what you can give her. It will happen......don't try to make it happen, just let it happen. *Hugs* from me!!!! You know where to pm me if you need to talk. I'll be there to listen.

You always have the best advice! But. if that doesn't work, don't forget to use the mask!

I found my wife when I wasn't even looking for her. I was at a picnic with a bunch of friends and she had been invited along by my best friend's grilfriend's mother. She didn't even live inthe same state I did, she was just there for a temporary job doing income tax forms for one of the tax services. I almost let her go too as she really didn't have any time to see me with all that work. Good thing it was a temporary job and we finally were able to hook up again for a first date. I met her when I was 24 and we dated for 3 years before we were married. I too had been burned before and wanted to make sure she was the one before I really committed myself to her. I actually had a couple of other women I was dating at the time too, but they weren't as nice as her. I've been married 19 years now but it took a long time to find the right one and her discovery was pretty much a coincidence.
Take your time, find a different group of friends, you never know who you might meet, but don't fall in love right away or your in for a let down.

quote Originally posted by Blacktree: C'mon Rumor, you know all the nice girls are attracted to jerks. Act like a jerk, get a nice girl, and then slowly drop the jerk routine to make her think she's changed you.

Heh, that IS true... Better to be the 'converted Jerk" then the nice guy she looks for after she gets damaged by a jerk.

No one wants "sloppy seconds"

quote Originally posted by cliffw: Actually, it seems girls like A$$holes

Loki - did you try hitting her? That seems to work well for all the couples I see on Maury
"My man hits me, but I still love him (part 2)"

j/k..

quote Originally posted by F-I-E-R-O: What and Awesome Idea! Wish I'd thought of this. I guess my question (and everyone elses') is how YOU found out about this? hmmmmmmmmmm...

Do you want the short answer, or the whole story ? The whole story is more interesting.
Ah...."Mr Never Can Find The Right Picture", I know you want an answer. I will give you both.
Short answer. I found it through a link on the forum today. It was a hyper link in the link posted. Curiosity killed the cat but I am still alive. I was thinking about the cun* who betrayed WBailey1041 and when I saw it, I thought his cun* might deserve the same thing my cun* did when she did the same thing to me. hehehe. It was so effective.
Let me find the post and the link...tell you where the hyperlink is and.....hmm..what thread was it ?
15 minutes later...................
Not worth my time finding it. Too busy. The long story would be quicker.
When I was cheated on by someone I know had feelings, I threw her a$$ out. I used to leave my truck at the bar she had to pass at 5:00 am to get to work. You talk about revenge without doing anything wrong........priceless.
I should post it for WBailey1041 also.

Three words for you.....(that may be mispelled.)....Positive Cognative Therapy! Its not the crap that the world throws at you..its how you preceive it. Yes, your girl is gone.......now you only have to think about yourself. ( be selfish) Dont go into self pity... it will tear your world apart. Mourning the loss is normal, but for a short period of time...you just have to get use to the change in your life. Be yourself no matter what, because eventualy , you will revert back., Its human nature. I wish you luck. John

And now, including this post, Loki is in the lead with 62 posts in his thread I’m done with life in general, while WBailey1041 trails with 61 in his thread Girlfriend caught cheating.

It’s a very close race to see who’s the most bummed out. Stay tuned soap opera fans...

Loki.....I'm sorry your having troubles with women again......trust me.....we all STINK! But as always, you have to move on, and get past it, be thankful it happened now and not a year from now, ya know? We all get $hit on from time to time.....unfortunetly, its a fact of life.

Recently, its seems like people in general are obsessed with having another person in their life, (bf/gf). I don't understand what the deal is. My roommates are freakin obsessed with finding someone to be with, and it gets old. I dont see why people just cant be happy being single. I use to think I could'nt do it, but not being in a serious relationship for almost a year has been GREAT. Its been good just going out and dating people. I've been with the same person now for almost 3 months and when he and I were getting together, I had to really think if I wanted to get into a relationship, I actually thought twice about it, which shocked the heck out of me. The single life was great, I learned so much about myself that I don't think I could've learned if I was wrapped up in a relationship.

Loki....maybe you should take some time to focus on yourself and your life. If I'm remembering correctly, you've been having women troubles for awhile now. Take a break! Take some YOU time......and when you least expect it......you'll find someone whos well worth your time!!!

-Sara

quote Originally posted by cliffw: I should post it for WBailey1041 also.

I got it. Man this place is like a sea of shoulders to cry on, thanks.

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Thanks for the advice and wise cracks. I fel alittle better today. Atleast i can talk with her mom right now. She doesnt know really whats going on but its someone i can talk to.

quote Originally posted by Loki: I feel a little better today.

Loki, anyone following all your "relationship" threads in this forum can see you’ve got a problem. (Geez, how many threads have there been?!!) Man oh man, give up women for awhile and learn to stand on your own feet. It's possible this incredible "need" you have for a woman in your life eventually weighs too heavy on your girlfriend(s). Perhaps you're suffocating them all with this acute dependency. Give it a rest!

Ill give it a rest till someone else comes along... Just the life i live..... But I wont post about anymore.

quote Originally posted by Patrick: Loki, anyone following all your "relationship" threads in this forum can see you’ve got a problem. (Geez, how many threads have there been?!!) Man oh man, give up women for awhile and learn to stand on your own feet. It's possible this incredible "need" you have for a woman in your life eventually weighs too heavy on your girlfriend(s). Perhaps you're suffocating them all with this acute dependency. Give it a rest!

I think you need to get out more, and I don't think I've seen you at the others--sooo...without further ado....

quote To Loki: Your OFFICIAL INVITATION to attend the CFOG-I Capitol City Ruckus Fiero Get Together, Show & Shine, scenic cruise, car games, Margarita drinking events nightly, and all round good time. I believe the dates are Oct 15/16 in Austin.

And of course, same goes to everyone else.

BE THERE!!

quote Originally posted by Loki: Ill give it a rest till someone else comes along...

You're a glutton for punishment.

Looks like it dont it. Oh well..... i have a new job I like....So thats one thing to look forward to.

quote Originally posted by Patrick: You're a glutton for punishment.

Confidence
Sense of Humor
Power (Protector)

Don't need looks.
Don't need Money.
Don't need a Job.

All the so -called "Losers" and "A--holes" have these qualities.
It takes time to LEARN and MASTER these.
It's like complaining you can't play the piano even though you don't take lessons.

Learn Karate. Get a Skateboard. Get a Motorcyle. Learn to Dance.
Lose the Computer !

I will NOT lose the computer. I do work on it. And AT work.

quote Originally posted by JT6666: Confidence Sense of Humor Power (Protector) Don't need looks. Don't need Money. Don't need a Job. All the so -called "Losers" and "A--holes" have these qualities. It takes time to LEARN and MASTER these. It's like complaining you can't play the piano even though you don't take lessons. Learn Karate. Get a Skateboard. Get a Motorcyle. Learn to Dance. Lose the Computer !