quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: Better to just be up front about things...

In my experience it's useless to ask people if they brought enough money.
They always say yes and they never do.

To be clear, Brother probably brought enough money for basics.
I guess the "good host" in me has got to take the blame for the rest.

quote Originally posted by TheDigitalAlchemist: wasn't typing that to anyone in particular.

Uh huh.

I'm not as angry as it may seem.
I just thought maybe some here could relate to the situation.
It seems not.
If nothing else, maybe the value of it is that someone here may have learned to see themselves differently in the Host/Guest relationship.
Maybe not.

I just know that when I visit someone, I take enough money for me AND them.
After all, if they are providing me a bed (in my case they don't, as I ALWAYS get a hotel. I don't like being a burden), the least I can do is spend the hotel money I saved, on them.
I want to be a guest that only costs time.

But no biggie.
It's no surprise to find out that I stand alone on this.
Won't be the first time I thought something should be the way it ain't.

I will survive it.....I always do.

[This message has been edited by Boondawg (edited 09-24-2014).]

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I will survive it.....I always do.

That's what worries us most !

Steve

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: Well, that was expensive. He got a deal on the tickets, but didn't really have the pocket money you need (in my opinion) for the other parts of a trip. The museum, the tours, the food, all the touristy stuff that costs a fortune. Being a good host, I picked up that slack. Dawn had to remind me that it's family, and that's what family do. But I'm somebody's family, and I don't do that. I always make sure I have enough money for a hotel, food, activities, and pick up the bill for everyone to have at least one or two nice dinners together. If I ain't got that, I don't go. Why? Because the cost of a trip is more then just the airfare... But I love my brother and I don't hold no ill-will against him. It's just that I'm in the middle of trying to gather-up first, last, & deposit money for my forced move next month. This was really not the time to be paying for part of someone else's vacation...

You seem to lack balance Dawg. You are a full fledged member of the TOO NICE party.

You are a damn extremist. What are you making up for anyway if you care to share?

quote Originally posted by pokeyfiero: What are you making up for anyway if you care to share?

Never being smart enough, or good enough, or enough-enough....:shrug:

quote Originally posted by Boondawg: Never being smart enough, or good enough, or enough-enough....:shrug:

Big brother, huh?

"Really nice of you, Clark".

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quote Originally posted by Boondawg: I'm not as angry as it may seem. I just thought maybe some here could relate to the situation. It seems not. If nothing else, maybe the value of it is that someone here may have learned to see themselves differently in the Host/Guest relationship.

I am glad, and also happy for you, that you got to spend time with your brother, .
I have been "lurking", paying attention. You have mentioned two situations. One ... why does he wanna come see me.
MadMark stated my thoughts, except I would add one thing.

quote Originally posted by MadMark: Boondawg, Maybe it is just because he misses you. You grew up together. You share the same parents. You basically shared many years of your life together and have bonds that only siblings can have. Enjoy your time together and remember your shared thoughts and memories. Have a good time and don't try to over think things.

I would add that ...coulda, shoulda, woulda.
There is a point in our lives when we reflect on them. Some people lament upon them. Some people try to change them. I was thinking he lamented that your family bond was not as what he wished it to be and is trying to make it what he thought it should be.
Your second situation ... perhaps you should not have over extended yourself. Then again, you may never have that opportunity with your brother again.
Unless, you go freeloading at his place, .